To Pacify 0r Not To Pacify
pacify
Verb
[-fies, -fying, -fied] to soothe or calm
Yes, the dilema has now struck us. Both Ryan and I are against pacifiers but after a night of pure evil brought on by Miller, we decided today that using a pacifier may not be that bad after all. It will surely save our sanity and prevent us from shaking the baby. I think the definition to "soothe or calm" is more for us rather than Miller.
I am still torn on the great debate. It's similar to the formula vs. breastmilk debate. It seems to be a fad like trend. Now the medical journals state that using a pacifier may help prevent SIDS. I am all for that but at the same time, I don't want a 4 year old sucking on a pacifier and have to deal with breaking the habit in the future. Then again, sucking his fingers or thumb isn't much more appealing.
We are dealing with a baby right now that I think is borderline colic and borderline growing and can't decide what he wants in life. More food, less food, to be held, to poop, to pass gas, to be walked, to be rocked, to have the light on, etc. (I forgot to mention that the original night light we bought didn't work so we bought another and even that is questionable. No one seems to carry a normal flipping night light so we are still searching.)
Well, I think the dear old pacifier just fell out of his mouth cause the whining has commenced. Seriously, I now know why people shake babies and also how they can forget them in the car. I love routine and this kid is messing with my routine! Too bad he's so darn loveable 90% of the time. Otherwise I would put him up on eBay.
posted by Erin @ 5:28 PM
4 Comments
4 Comments:
We had the same thoughts going through our heads with Valey. I think we all have these grand ideas about how we don't want to mess up our kids, but reality sets in fairly quickly. We ended up giving her a nuk when WE really needed her to have one. So far, no ill regrets. She doesn't seem very attached to them. However, we do take it away when she's being "normal" and save it only for when she's being cranky (or as I like to call... being like Mom). For example: if she falls asleep with it in her mouth, we'll take it out before we put her down to sleep.
Hang in there, pretty soon the 90% good times increases to 95%!
BCKR
I totaly agree with anonymous #1. The nice thing with the pacifier is you can take it away, fingers you can't. Wait until the teeth start coming in or he gets a cold, you will want a pacifier then. Like anonymous #1 said, use it only when really needed. Our girls get it at night time and nap time only now that they are beyond the teething. We will get past the potty training and then do away with the pacifier.
Realize that they do make different styles of nipples. Emily couldn't do the sucking thing with most nipples due to her small size and so we tried them ALL before we had success.
Sheryl
Girl, your routine went out the window the minute Ryan put on KISS's "LOVE GUN" and did the dirty. It's just something that you have to let go of. The little guy is just trying to adjust to this weird new place he's in and believe me, he's trying to establish his own routine. Kyle is almost 2 and he loves his pacifier and he's beginning to use it less and less, but it's a security thing for him and it makes him feel safe. And boy is it a God-Send at bedtime. Before you know it, he'll be whipping that thing around the house when he's throwing a tantrum. Hang in there.
Froyd - GIVE HIM A BINKY! Brady had one from day one and when we finally made him give it up at 2 1/2, it was no big deal. The "binky fairy" came and in exchange for all of his binkies, the fairy left Brady a very special toy that he wanted. It was great. Cassie just turned two and still needs her binky, but we only let her have it at sleep/rest time.
Trust me, the pros GREATLY outweigh the cons as far as I am concerned!
Sivey
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